Sunday, May 24, 2009

Commissioning 2009


I am sitting here trying to figure out how to express my feelings after witnessing my 2nd oldest son's graduation and commissioning this past weekend. I still remember him as a beautiful baby the moment I first laid my eyes on him. Other than his hair darkening, he hasn't changed a bit; he's still as beautiful. More than being a proud father, I am a father that is even happier for his son. He has survived the crucible for four years and is moving on to his aviation career. Two children graduated, two more to go. I will do everything in my power to see them all become successful. I have discovered the secret of happiness, the attainment of the level of selfactualization: my love for my children and involvement in their lives.

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Methode Naturelle


After discovering Evolutionary Psychology (EP) in 1998, it was a natural progression to Evolutionary Fitness. This was not a term original to me, but a term nonetheless that I deduced from EP's concept of the mismatch between modern and ancestral environments and the resulting implications. What psychological implications this mismatch has also holds true physically. I began researching how to bridge the gap between modern and ancestral movement patterns. The latest discovery to grab my attention is the work done by Georges Hebert. A French Naval officer that developed an approach to physical fitness that he called Methode Naturelle, or natural movement. Currently, Erwan Le Corre continues Hebert's philosophy in his MovNat or Movement Naturelle: "Be strong to be useful" -- by focusing on 10 essential skills: walking, running, jumping, walking on all fours, climbing, balancing, throwing, lifting, defending, and swimming. More on this to come.

Tuesday, May 27, 2008

Relationships


I've learned a lot about relationships in the last few years since being divorced. It amazes me that you can never possess enough information to help you make rational and optimal decisions. At 52, I naively thought that most at or near my age would have a clear self-image, or just the "self" to be parsimonious. We should be master's of our emotions and experts in our desires, especially before trying to enter into some relationship, whether it be casual or of a more serious intent. Here' s my model: presenting the self as single, available, and interested in a relationship, two individuals become attracted to each other by physical or media contact. It's really a tacit contract, you are saying that I am interested in you and you me. I am also open to a relationship should one develop. In other words, my heart and emotions are not suppressed for fear of failure, heartbreak, or past hurts. If both parties agree to this, then the relationship is free to develop; free to flow to whatever point possible. But if one or both parties are not fully open to this "degree of freedom" then the relationship is constrained artificially. There is a famous saying by Dr. Robert Anthony: "the one that loves the least controls the relationship." Therefore, if one party immediately announces that they are not interested in a serious relationship, or that they want to be friends first, or they are emotionally "broke," they immediately have taken control of the relationship. The other person is now at their whims and mercy. The one that cares the most is now an option. Doesn't sound really appealing when it's put like that is it? Ideally, one should have the courage to be afraid and to act anyway. Both parties should put their hearts on the line and understand that all things considered, that even if all the ingredients are there, love can still fail to develop in one or both partners. But, both can say that they are satisfied that they give the relationship it's all and that failure lies not with a lack of effort, but rather the elusiveness of true love.

Tuesday, March 11, 2008

"Adult" Aging & Development

This semester, I am teaching adult aging and development as well as general psychology. I am in Heaven. I love to teach. Until this semester I had only taught night classes usually with an older and wiser population who want to go back to school and learn and not just get a degree. I had considered teaching high school or junior high, but found the college classroom much more challenging and rewarding. This semester has been interesting to say the least. The students are mostly right out of high school and given the new found freedom would rather take a lackadaisical attitude and skip class, turn in homework assignments late or not at all, and miss tests and ask for leniency. What is the cause for this? Well, it's multifaceted and the best place to start is the research on the teenage brain. This information can be found on the Allstate Foundation website on teenage brain research.


JAY GIEDD, M.D.
Chief, Brain Imaging
Child Psychiatry Branch
National Institute of Mental Health
FEW WOULD BE SURPRISED TO HEAR THAT THE BRAINS OF CHILDREN, TEENS, AND ADULTS ARE different, but actually pinpointing these differences in a scientific way has been elusive. The brain is wrapped in a tough leathery membrane, surrounded by a protective moat of fluid, and completely encased in bone. Designed to shield the brain from falls or predators’ attacks, this armor has also shielded it from scientific study. Throughout most of the history of neuroscience, information about the brain was gained chiefly from trauma injuries resulting from accidents or war. Fortunately, this is no longer the case. Advances in imaging technologies, such as magnetic resonance imaging (MRI), now enable researchers to safely observe the structure and function of the living, growing brain. Analyzing brain scans from hundreds of boys and girls as they grow from childhood through adolescence into adulthood has revealed three main findings.
• The brain is remarkably “plastic,” or changeable, able to modify its structure in response to different environmental challenges. Adolescence is a particularly dynamic time for the brain, creating enormous opportunity for learning, creativity, and energy, but also for trial and error, missteps, and perhaps risky behavior. Understanding the neuroscience of teen brain development may help to guide optimal driving instruction and safety guidelines.
• The process of brain maturation occurs over a longer period of time than previously thought.
Particularly late to mature is an area in the front part of the brain – part of the neural circuitry involved in impulse control, judgment, and decision-making – that continues to develop well into the 20s. This area is also involved in "multi-tasking" or doing more than one thing at a time. Multi-tasking is one of the abilities that continues to improve most throughout the teen years. This is why it is important to limit the number of "other" tasks, such as adjusting the volume on a CD player or talking on a cell phone, that a young driver must attend to.
• Brain development varies greatly from person to person. Some teens are better at inhibiting impulses, have better judgment, and are better drivers than some adults. Therefore, the findings of this research are valid only for comparing averages between groups of teens and groups of adults.
In summary, advances in brain imaging technologies have indicated that there is enormous plasticity and variation in teen brain development and that areas crucial to driving safety – judgment, impulse control, multitasking– are not yet fully developed in many teens. As shown in Dr. Steinberg’s accompanying study, this is complicated by the social contexts affecting teen driving. An important challenge will be to use these technologies to better understand individual teen drivers. The more we can learn about what sort of education and interventions are best suited to each driver, the more effective we can be in decreasing the incidence of vehicle crashes among teenage drivers.

Saturday, January 05, 2008

Army-Navy 2007

Army-Navy 2007

I finally made it to "America's Favorite"....the Army-Navy game. It was a cold Baltimore morning, fans crowding into the light rail system very early on, but logistically, it was an easy proposition. We got off the train across the street from M&T Bank stadium, went to our seats and watched the Cadets and Mids marchon.

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Then the action began. Flyovers and parachutists....

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Finally, the players took the field and Navy took a record 6th win in a row!

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Navy Triumphs over Army again! photo by Phil Hoffmann Photography

Sunday, April 29, 2007

Changes

David Bowie had a catchy song called "Changes"....
Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes (turn and face the strain)
Ch-ch-changes Dont want to be a richer man
Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes (turn and face the strain)
Ch-ch-changes Just gonna have to be a different man
Time may change me
But I can't trace time

Perhaps many people have felt that they have seen more change in their lifetime than any other generation....so it's a very subjective thing. I can remember in the late 60's and early 70's I saw so much change and much of it I did not like. Values, mores, ideals, routines that I had grown up with were being challenged and changed...sometimes for the better....other times just for the sake of change. I don't always deal with change very well. So many things that anchor our lives succumb to the "boiled frog syndrome." As a frog boils in a pot with slowly increasing heat, it never detects the change and too late it's dead.

Now that my life has changed beyond my imagination, I grope for things that bring me comfort, comfort before the pot boiled. I find myself watching reruns of Andy Griffith, the Waltons, Kung Fu, Star Trek and more. A different time and place. All bring back such pleasant memories of a simpler time, and a happier time.

I guess if there is any consolation, I have found at least 2 things, not including my parents or my memory, that still harkens me back to bliss, and is alive and in operation today: the Boy Scouts and the US Naval Academy. Thank God that my 2 oldest sons made Eagle Scout and attended the Naval Academy. If I have done nothing else in life, and no matter the personal failures, I feel that I have contributed to their success and have given them the opportunity to participate in some experience that will equip them for what lies ahead. The values, the leadership training, the experiences of stepping outside of the modern mold. I have my 2 youngest children yet to prepare. I pray that I can see to it that they too have fair winds and following seas. I love you my dear children, always remember that.

Dad

Saturday, March 10, 2007

Securities Licensing

I just passed my Series 6 and Series 63 licensing tests!!! I spent many hours studying all of this stuff relating to mutual funds and variable contracts. Reminded me of law school, especially the 63. Convoluted definitions, exemptions, exclusions, etc. and then being able to analyze the answer from the facts given in the question. If I had it to over again, I would have studied the materials for about 3 weeks, then taken the 3 day cram course, then take the test the weekend after the class.